If possible, travel to another city or country for a short duration (e.g., a month or two) just so that you are alone with your child – only you and your child. Do things they like to do, while keeping within the limits of the religion. Bond with them.Take them where they would like to go.So that when they need you, you are there. Even if your child is busy with something else, be present for them. Are you spending enough time with your child and is it quality time? If not, then set aside a portion of your day for your child – just you and your child. Turn your attention to the situation at hand and rationalize.Reflect upon your routine and your child’s routine.Sadaqah wards off affliction in this world and punishment on the Judgment Day. The Messenger of Allah (sa) said: “Allah (swt) said: ‘Spend, son of Adam, and I shall spend on you.’” (Bukhari and Muslim) Sadaqah gives protection against all kinds of evil. Give in charity.Allah (swt) will give to you.So he said to him: “Ask forgiveness of Allah.” So he said to him: “Ask forgiveness of Allah (swt).” A third man came to him, complaining of the barrenness of his garden. He said to him: “Ask forgiveness of Allah (swt).” Another man came to him, complaining that he did not have any children. Continuously seek forgiveness.This is a solution to the problems of this world.It is related that a man came to al-Hasan al-Basri and complained to him of poverty.Alhumdulillahi wa subhan Allahi wa la ilaha illa Allahu wallahu akbar wa la hawla wa la quwwata illa billahil aliyil adheem.” And make your Dua.(Bukhari) Recite: “La ilaha illallahu wahdahu la sharika lahu, lahul mulku wa lahul hamdu wa huwa ala kulli shai’in qadeer. Especially when you unexpectedly wake up at night, make Dua, because that is the time of acceptance. Allah (swt) states in the Quran: “And seek help in patience and As-Salat (the prayer)…” (Al-Baqarah 2:45) Offer extra prayers especially at the time of Tahajjud, seeking Allah’s (swt) help and guidance. When faced with such an untoward or unfavourable situation, what should we do? How should we react? Below are some of my very humble suggestions: I wish to share with you what I have observed, learned, and understood. Being a mother of four as well as a ‘mother’ to so many students and their children has, Alhumdulillah, enabled me to learn a lot. This in and of itself is a learning experience and an adjusting process for both the mother and her child. There could be a number of reasons but what is the solution?Ī mother generally faces many challenges and obstacles, when dealing with her children. It made me reflect as to why children suddenly take a turn towards the wrong maybe they are seeking attention or are involved in the wrong company maybe they are watching movies or wrongfully using the internet maybe some major change in their lives has made them emotionally and spiritually weak or maybe they were hurt by someone and the negative feelings were building up inside of them. This has continuously played on my mind as to how these children can be helped and their mothers consoled. Very often mothers approach me with various disturbing issues concerning their children. It is very painful indeed to see children caught up in such acts, especially for mothers who at times are so helpless that they go into a state of despair and depression. With Ustazah’s permission, I would like to share what she wrote in response to my letter: Ever since her discovery, she had been trying to figure out a way to guide her son away from this act of immorality out of concern for his salvation. My motive for writing was the sake of a grieved mother, a student of mine, who had recently discovered that her 22-year-old son is gay. The lecture was related to homosexuality. Farhat Hashmi that I decided to write to her.
#Dr farhat hashmi lectures about hajj series#
It was after listening to a lecture from the “Dawa-e-Shafi” series by Ustazah Dr.
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